The dating scene is rough in LA (and in every other city, and in every other town. and for our entire generation), and I have match-made and coached hundreds of women: from A-list celebrities, to successful girl bosses, to cover models, who all don’t understand why they can’t get into an exclusive relationship with a nice guy.

If you have yet to hire a professional Matchmaker like myself, which I highly encourage if you are in the financial place to do it, you are probably meeting men on dating apps or online (or in real life if you read this genius article by yours truly).

If a guy is relying heavily on the apps as his primary source for meeting women, he is coming into the dating scene with a completely different mentality than men of the past who dated solely based on who they met in their everyday lives.

Men whose primary way of meeting women in real life have less options, so when they do meet an incredible women like yourself, they get that it is difficult to find such a catch.

Men who prie feelings of frustration and have the understanding that meeting an incredible woman is challenging, but they have a Vegas gambling mentality when it comes to dating.

The dating apps condition guys to feel like dating is like playing the slot machines at the Venetian. They can conceptualize that they just won the jackpot by meeting a smart, fun and pretty woman who they connect with, but the slot machine (aka the dating app) encourages them to “keep playing.”

They suffer from what one of my business partners and matchmaking mogul, Patti Stanger, “The Million Dollar Matchmaker,” pinpoints… they want the “Bigger Better Deal.” “Yes, wow, this woman is great,” they think, “But what if the next woman is even better?”

Studies have shown that a man using dating apps as his primary source https://worldbrides.org/sv/heta-australiska-brudar/ of meeting women is probably dating about six women at the same time, on average.

I know that it’s super depressing to think about, but when going into war, you need to understand the terrain that you are entering. And according to “How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days,” isn’t all supposed to be fair in love and war?

Since it is feasible to quantify that a man who you begin to date is also dating a few other women, you need to enter this potential relationship with an open heart but with strong boundaries. Be your open, charming self, have fun on your dates, yet keep your wits about you and your options open… just like he is.

When it comes to sex, here’s where things get interesting.

Let me explain to you the mentality of many men using the dating apps on the reg. This is going to be hard to swallow, so take a deep breath and a sip of that Pinot.

Category 1: Women who he would sleep with.

This category is massive. Do a little survey of your guy friends and ask them if they would sleep with you. Ask them if they would sleep with your friend Jessica. Ask them if they would sleep with the woman crossing the street. Ask them if they would sleep with their female econ professor from college. Ask them if they would sleep with the barista at Starbucks.

I am going to blow your mind right now and magically read all of your guy friends’ minds: the answer is YES. Am I am #manwhisperer or what?